The REAP Team - Sex

Is showering together unchaste?

gretchen — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 14:53:05 -0500

Hey Paul, I have a question concerning chasity

My friend told me that he and a girl took a shower together!? I won't go into much detail, but apparently there was touching involved. My friend reasures me that he did not go too far and that he stayed chaste the entire time. He even said, "I've read Heather's book, nothing I did was unchaste!"

So my question is: was he staying chaste? And what should I do?

Isn't sexual compatibility good for marriage?

heather — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 15:41:01 -0500

Before you marry someone, shouldn't you know whether or not you two are good together in bed? How can you marry someone if you don't know how the sex would be?

How can I stop masturbating?

paul — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 18:28:32 -0500

My problem is masturbating. I've tried to stop many times but can't. How can I stop doing this?

How do I transform lust into love?

heather — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 15:38:24 -0500

Do you have a dirty mind, too? Can't shake images, memories or impure motives? If you want change, there's more than just not looking at porn or stopping sexual activity. Find out how you can be filled with overflowing love for sex and the opposite sex.

How can I turn around an impure relationship?

heather — Wed, 05 Jul 2006 15:50:01 -0500

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a little over a year, and though we have not had sex, I know there are parts of our relationship that aren't so pure. We want to be sexually pure in all ways, but are having difficulty. It seems really hard to introduce true chastity when we have already done things. How do I steer our relationship out of this bad direction?

Tom Answers "Why Wait?"

stlyouth — Fri, 03 Feb 2006 17:49:31 -0500

If you are looking for good answers to the question of ‘why wait?’ I want you to know I have been thinking about this for a long time, deciding what thoughts that I can offer to you.

How far is too far?

stlyouth — Wed, 28 Dec 2005 13:27:57 -0500

As an intelligent person, you know that there is a lot you can do (physically) with the opposite sex, without actually having intercourse, right? To answer this question, you'll have to get in Paul's brain (sorry!).

Are abstinence & chastity the same?

stlyouth — Tue, 27 Dec 2005 18:00:40 -0500

Aren't they about the same thing? No way! Both are great words to learn but very different. Abstinence simply means saying "NO." Chastity is a virtue—not a habit.

What if my boyfriend likes porn and strip clubs?

stlyouth — Tue, 06 Dec 2005 12:50:55 -0500

My boyfriend likes porn and strip clubs. What can I do?

Were Adam and Eve married?

stlyouth — Tue, 05 Jul 2005 13:52:32 -0500

If the Church says we have to be married first in order to have sex then why is it not mentioned anywhere in the Bible about Adam and Eve being married since they had two kids - Cain and Abel?

What is the Church doing about the sexual abuse among priests?

stlyouth — Fri, 03 Jun 2005 13:52:01 -0500

Although I believe few answers or solutions to such a problem can remedy the hurt that has already been incurred, I do see change within the Church and reasons to have hope for youth and those seeking healing.

"Friends with benefits..." what do you think about it?

stlyouth — Tue, 13 Jul 2004 13:50:43 -0500

From a girl who once considered the “friends with benefits” situation and even was the one to suggest it to a guy friend in high school, let me say that it’s...

Does chastity include tight clothes & heavy making-out?

stlyouth — Fri, 26 Sep 2003 13:02:31 -0500

Do you prefer to eat cereal with a knife, fork or spoon? Find out how to get a "spoonful" of what you want in relationships - not just the bare minimum.

I don't regret what I've done. Am I a terrible person?

stlyouth — Tue, 01 Jul 2003 12:58:29 -0500

It's actually natural and normal to not experience the feeling of regret immediately or at all after making a mistake. But, how we feel doesn't change what took place.

Want great sex?

stlyouth — Wed, 22 Jan 2003 12:57:52 -0500

Have you ever heard of sex as “going all the way?” If you want the greatest sex, it requires going all the way - find out how here.

Is oral sex okay?

stlyouth — Tue, 14 Jan 2003 12:57:19 -0500

Former president Bill Clinton certainly confused a generation - is oral sex actually sex or something else? Stay puzzled no longer.

What's so wrong with pornography?

stlyouth — Thu, 05 Dec 2002 12:56:53 -0500

Living in a porn nation makes it hard to believe anything is wrong with viewing a couple pictures of movies, right? See why so-called "innocent fun" twists everything about sex and the opposite sex.

Is masturbation a sin?

stlyouth — Mon, 16 Sep 2002 11:56:00 -0500

Masturbation seems harmless, but it perverts sex into selfishness and damages your relationships with the opposite sex, especially your future spouse. Here's how...

Why won't my school make condoms available?

stlyouth — Mon, 01 Jul 2002 12:55:15 -0500

Since you can't stop all teens from having sex, making condoms available at schools seems to be logical. However, our physical health is not the only thing in danger with premarital sex.

I want to live chastely, but don't think I can. Is it really possible?

stlyouth — Fri, 25 Jan 2002 12:54:49 -0500

It’s not an easy decision, and living it can often be a great challenge. However, chastity most certainly CAN be done. Here are four quick stories…

How does sex before marriage lead to sexual problems in marriage?

stlyouth — Sun, 01 Jul 2001 12:53:48 -0500

An estimated 40 million women in America complain about their sex lives. Although there can be many explanations for the trend, sex before marriage can only contribute to this sad phenomenon because...

Is it a sin if I was raped?

stlyouth — Wed, 27 Jun 2001 12:47:54 -0500

Rape is far different from giving yourself to another. Rape falls into another category altogether and requires much healing to become whole again.

Will I go to hell if I have sex before marriage?

stlyouth — Sat, 20 Jan 2001 12:47:13 -0500

Redemption is always available - no matter what we've done.

Sex is a natural desire, right?

stlyouth — Thu, 07 Sep 2000 12:35:36 -0500

Of course sex is a natural, human desire, and it is meant to be VERY good and fulfilling. Contrary to popular belief, our awesome Creator is not a kill-joy.

What could really go wrong with sex outside of marriage?

stlyouth — Sat, 05 Aug 2000 12:33:16 -0500

STD's and pregnancy can be the least of your worries when we take sex outside of marriage. See how sex always affects the heart, mind and soul as well.

Chastity gives you freedom?

stlyouth — Sat, 15 Jan 2000 12:39:31 -0500

You'll never believe all the freedoms you gain in living chastity.