I've been sexually abused - what should I do?

I've been sexually abused. What should I do?


Let me begin by first expressing my sorrow for the pain and suffering you have endured as a result of this abuse. It is a very painful experience and often hard to explain to someone who has not been abused. I also want to tell you how awesome it is that you are reaching out for help and guidance in dealing with your abuse! That is a HUGE first step!

I too was sexually abused by two different men in my childhood. The memories haunted me much of my life, so I truly feel your pain. For me, telling a trusted teacher at my high school was the first step in my healing. She was so kind and supportive and listened patiently! Eventually she encouraged me to tell my parents, which I did and that furthered my recovery. They had no idea that any of the abuse had occurred, even though it happened in our home. Going to counseling was another step in my healing because I was able to talk openly and honestly with a trained professional who could help me understand and process my grief. Another part of my journey was talking with a priest about my abuse. He was able to guide me spiritually and help me fully surrender my pain to God and to eventually forgive the men who abused me. Please understand that my healing was a long process that took years to work through. But the miracle of God's healing love enveloped me when I was able to finally give him my pain, suffering, confusion, anger, and resentment!

Your recovery from sexual abuse will be a long process, but it is so worth going through because you will be stronger and closer to God as a result of it! As a result of my healing, I am now able to reach out to others who have been sexually abused and offer them encouragement and support! Being able to do so is a HUGE blessing in my life! One day God may use you for the same purpose! I believe that God weeps with us when we suffer from such horrible experiences, but I also believe that He can take any experience and use it for His glory- if we allow Him to heal us! I encourage you to open your heart to Him! You can do this by first, talking to a parent, teacher, counselor, priest or any other trusted adult in your life. He or she will be able to listen, console, and guide you in your healing. You may need to go for counseling and you will definitely need to pray about your situation and talk openly with God about your fears, pain, and suffering. And if you don't know who to trust, pray specifically about that. Ask God to provide the ideal situation and to guide you in knowing the right person to confide in. Know that I will be praying for your healing as well!

If I can be of further help, please feel free to e-mail me at carolyn@reapteam.org
Good luck on your journey and God Bless!

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