Heather Recommends

Believe it or not, Heather's favorite movie isn't a chick flick (although many of her other picks fit that category). She her odd and predictable choices as well as why she sometimes recommends movies with pre-marital sex (yikes!)

(Note: some movies in this list are R-rated, but I'm an adult. I would advise teens reading this list to never see an R-rated movie without parental permission!)

Recent Hits

  • The Notebook (PG13): Although too steamy, still an inspiring romance, marriage and witness of love... (review below)
  • Spiderman 2 (PG13)
  • Win a Date with Tad Hamilton (PG13): Much cuter than I expected. Chick flick!
  • Miracle (PG): Hard work and teamwork rocks, this movie show how.
  • Shallow Hal (PG13): Although the humor can seem mean-spirited, it really challenged my shallowness.
  • Mean Girls (PG13): Same thoughts as "Shallow Hal". A very TRUE representation of high school girls.
  • Big Fish (PG): Cool family movie.
  • Secondhand Lions (PG): Didn't expect it to be so good. Similar to Big Fish, lots of fun.
  • Finding Nemo (G)
  • Two Weeks Notice (PG13): Realistic chemistry from Hugh Grant - that's an accomplishment!
  • Radio (PG): Cool ending, don't stop too soon.

All-Time Favorite Hits

  • The Lord of the Rings Trilogy (PG13)
  • What About Bob (PG)
  • The Great Outdoors (PG)
  • When Harry Met Sally (R)
  • The Wedding Singer (PG13)
  • Never Been Kissed (PG13)
  • Legally Blonde (PG13)
  • My Big Fat Greek Wedding (PG)
  • Return to Me (PG)
  • Remember the Titans (PG)
  • Hoosiers (PG)
  • Cool Runnings (PG)


The Notebook (PG13)

First of all, I want to deal with the chastity issue. Please do not be shocked that the chastity lady will sometimes recommend movies that show and maybe even glorify premarital sex. I do so because some good can still come out of such movies, if watched with a critical mind. Let me help you be critical of pre-marital sex in movies, starting with this one.

The two main lovers do have sex before marriage. And the scenes are very steamy, I'm warning you now. At the same time, however, their love is incredibly strong long before the sex takes place and viewers know that they would have still been together even if the sex did not occur before marriage. Also, we see the problems of premarital sex written all over this story. When they first try to have sex, she is plagued by worries. Many people are, but she articulates them. Also, when they do have sex, it crushes the man to know that she still may choose to not stay with him. The guy's heart cannot handle to have sex with this woman and then be abandoned. Bottom line, they could have waited for marriage. It wasn't loving for her to put his heart through such turmoil without a commitment for life. He could have taken his commitment to her a step further by saving his body for her and their wedding night. The steamy sex scenes could have happened during their honeymoon, changing little to nothing about their passion for each other and only adding to their real love and marriage. Nobody is perfect, and I'm not condemning him or her. However, I mention all this so that you and I don't assume that just because they had sex before marriage it was the best thing they could have done for one another.

Okay, with the chastity lesson out of the way, what I loved about this movie was the beauty of their marriage and devoted passion. This man knows what he wants and will do whatever it takes to prove it. What woman would not be knocked off her feet to be pursued with passion? He writes her, he builds a house for her, his heart waits for her. He prepared himself for her for years, never sure that she thought as much about him. Maybe I'm just cynical, but I rarely see that type of hope these days. He believes in this love in his actions. Can there be more people out there today with that drive and commitment for real romantic love? Are you preparing in a variety of ways for him or her?

And, while I'm a strong advocate of building a solid friendship and not jumping into serious dating, especially until you can consider marriage, I still think you can have a healthy, chaste and yet passionate relationship. Guarding your heart is not about being cold and hiding love. There's a balance that is difficult, but I believe very possible. And, although this couple didn't exactly guard their hearts, they show us of the beauty of the passion and desire a couple can have to just be with one another.

The coolest part of the movie is when she complains that they fight too much. He says (I'm paraphrasing), "Yes, that's what we do. You tell me when I'm arrogant and I tell you when you're a pain in the butt. We learn, move on, that's what we do. It's not going to be easy, at all. But, I'm willing to work on it everyday." What an awesome testament to marriage!!!

I won't give away all of my favorite details of this movie, but you'll know them when you see them. They touch everyone's heart. And, I'm not a crying type, but I could have used some kleenex for this one. Yes, it's a chick flick, no doubt, but it will certainly move to my all-time favorite list in due time. It gave me hope about the power of love, the strength of a committed marriage and just life in general.