Books on Chastity, Sex, & Relationships

Why would you live chastity? If you don't have numerous reasons, read some of these great books. Then, you'll be more than prepared then for one of the biggest adventures of life - romance and relationships!

For Teens

A Case for Chastity: The Way to Real Love and True Freedom for Catholic Teens by Heather Gallagher and Peter Vlahutin

A fast read yet extremely thorough and personal. The convincing evidence real life stories, analogies and logic engages teens immediately while delivering Church and Biblical truth. Excellent as a teen personal guide, for parents or in the classroom (175 pp). For a signed copy, contact Heather.

Real Love by Mary Beth Bonacci

Comprehensive book on chastity for teens and adults. Bonacci uses analogies, wisdom and wit to answer hundreds of questions young people ask about dating, sex and relationships (317 pp).

If You Really Loved Me by Jason Evert

Another thorough view of chastity from a young, male perspective. Evert answers common questions young people ask about sex and relationships with heart and facts (231 pp). Available at any online bookstore or Catholic Answers, where his other book, Pure Love, is also sold. Pure Love is a great, brief book for teens (32 pp).

When God Writes Your Love Story: The Ultimate Approach to Guy/Girl Relationships by Eric and Leslie Ludy

Fascinating story of a couple and each of their love lives prior to finding their spouse. Within the book both the male and female perspective is proportioned to give a rich account of two individuals giving their love life to God. (219 pp)

The Forgotten Virtue: Rethinking the Sexual Revolution by Mollie Hobaugh-Sorensen

Mollie Sorensen has created a book dedicated to every curious teenager who wants to hear more than "NO" and to every parent, teacher or youth leader who must answer the question, "WHY?" It shows why chastity creates more love not less.

Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot

Interesting and enlightening description of a personal experience and tips for giving God your passions and growing in purity (192 pp). Other books by Elliot: Let Me Be a Woman, The Mark of a Man, and The Quest for Love.

I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationships by Joshua Harris

Popular and thought provoking book for those committed to chastity to challenge common dating practices. Harris encourages young people to embrace singleness and to not just guard your body but also your heart (235 pp).

Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship by Joshua Harris

Excellent sequel to I Kissed Dating Goodbye, a balanced approach to Christian relationships. This new book presents a faith-filled approach to living chastity including practical tips through Harris' courtship and marriage (229 pp).

Not Even A Hint: Guarding Your Heart Against Lust by Joshua Harris

Another enlightening and helpful book by Harris, guiding both men and women from lust to sexual purity. (172 pp).

Every Young Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker

How a man looks at a woman directly relates to his treatment of her. This book delves into how men view and treat women, and how Christian men can overcome cultural and personal patterns to truly and purely love women (240 pp).

Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World by Shannon Ethridge, Stephen Arterburn

The Princess and the Kiss by Jennie Bishop

A beautifully illustrated book for young children and teen women. Bishop encourages purity through a fairy-tale-style love story. Sexuality is understood by an older child, but hidden to the younger child (32 pp).

The Incredible Gift by Keith and Tami Kiser

Sex, Love & You: Making the Right Decision by Tom and Judy Lickona

Sex and the Teenager: Choices and Decisions by Kieran Sawyer

10 Commandments Of Dating by Ben Young and Dr. Samuel Adams

For Mature Teens, Adults, and Parents

Good News about Sex and Marriage by Christopher West

Incredible book on sex! West uses wisdom (from the Pope's Theology of the Body), analogies and personal life experience to answer questions and explain sexuality in a way that will absolutely change the way you view sex, marriage and the Church. This is a must read for Catholic adults. Also by West: Theology of the Body Explained.

Intimate Deception by Roger Hillerstrom

This Christian psychologist and relationship counselor explains how co-habitation, pre-marital sex and even some practices of abstinence inhibit real intimacy and love.

A Return to Modesty by Wendy Shalit

This young, Jewish author makes the connection between sexual purity and a woman's self-esteem. A mostly cultural view of how the sexual revolution hurts women and modesty protects and restores. Very interesting.

Love and Responsibility by Pope John Paul II

Covenant of Love: Pope John Paul II on Sexuality, Marriage, and Family in the Modern World by Richard M. Hogan and John M LeVoir

The Courage to Be Chaste by Benedict Groeschel

Choosing God's Best by Dr. Bon Raunikar

Intimate Bedfellows: Love, Sex and the Catholic Church by Thomas and Donna Finn

Why Wait?: What You Need to Know about the Teen Sexuality Crisis by Dick Day and Josh McDowell


Reality Check: the truth about sex by Challenge Task Force on Chastity

Best video available on chastity (or abstinence). Received New York Film Award in the area of documentary. This video provides a very realistic and varied view of sex and the gift of chastity, through many brief testimonies from young people. Excellent for classroom or youth group viewing. 1-888-881-0729

Love is Patient: Saving Sex for Marriage by Paraclete Press

Featuring REAP's chastity educator, Heather Gallagher, and REAP volunteers, this video shows the beauty of saving sex for marriage. Through personal testimonies of teens and young adults, saving sex for marriage is described as not only a gift, but also very possible, even for those starting over. The video even includes practical tips for staying pure and a Resource and Discussion Guide packed with Biblical references, discussion questions and activities.

Real Love: The Video Series by Mary Beth Bonacci

Nine 25-minute videos with like "Freedom to Dump Losers" and "Love Means Never Having To Say I'm Sorry I Messed Up Your Life"cover every aspect of love, chastity and healthy dating that teens need to hear about. Shot in a relaxed, "MTV Unplugged"-style setting, these videos show Mary Beth at her best -- sharing, laughing and interacting with teens. Study guide included provides discussion questions, activities and more information. See her website for more details.

More EXCELLENT Videos at Heritage House 76: I highly recommend anything by Mary Beth Bonacci, Jason Evert, Ellen Marie and Joshua Harris. All Catholic except Harris.

Parents and Teachers

Besides reading excellent books such as Good News about Sex and Marriage and A Case for Chastity for yourself, I recommend watching Reality Check or Real Love with your teens or giving them any books listed. These can be great conversation starters! For young children, read The Princess and the Kiss as a family. Also, check out the teacher/parent section of our web site.